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Tiara to Hard Hat: Tales of a Steel-Toe Boot Princess

Writer's picture: Sondra BordenSondra Borden

Updated: May 4, 2024



Forget glass slippers, this princess wears steel toe boots. There's an entire world of difference between the two, and it speaks volumes about the expectations society often places on us, especially when it comes to fitting into the traditional molds of femininity. From a young age, we're fed stories of the whole damsel-in-distress, their entire lives seemingly hinging on the arrival of Prince Charming to save the day. But let me set the record straight: I traded in my tiara for a hard hat a long time ago, and I haven't looked back since.


This shift was more than just a change of wardrobe; it was a rebellion against the narrative that told me my strength had to be silent, my actions measured, and my ambitions tailored to fit a more "acceptable" narrative. Why wait around in a tower (or a corporate cubicle, for that matter) when there's a whole kingdom out there to explore, challenges to tackle, and dreams to pursue on my own terms?


Stepping out of that age-old narrative meant redefining what femininity meant to me. It wasn't about abandoning grace or beauty but rather about merging them with resilience, intelligence, and a strong work ethic. The steel toe boots became more than just footwear; they were a symbol of this new identity. They grounded me in the reality of my chosen path, one that required not just mental acuity but physical toughness too.


In donning these boots, I embraced a role far removed from the damsel in distress. I became the architect of my destiny, constructing my future with each step I took. It was empowering to realize that I didn't need saving, that I could be my hero, forging ahead through obstacles with a mix of determination and strategic thinking.


The hard hat and steel toe boots are more than just accessories; they represent a life lived on one's own terms, challenging the status quo and breaking free from the constraints of traditional femininity. They symbolize the sweat, tears, and grit it takes to build not just buildings, but a life that feels authentically yours. So, to those still waiting for Prince Charming, I say this: the view from behind a hard hat, standing atop a structure you helped build, is far more exhilarating than any you'd get from the tallest tower in the land. 


It wasn't an overnight transformation, though. The journey from glass slippers to steel toe boots was a gradual awakening, a series of small, yet profound, revelations that ultimately reshaped my entire worldview. As a little girl, I was no stranger to the enchanting world of fairy tales. I would twirl around the living room, draped in makeshift gowns, my eyes sparkling with the magic of faraway lands and grand adventures. I dreamt of castles in the clouds, of grand balls where I, too, could make a grand entrance and captivate the room. It was a beautiful dream, woven from the threads of countless bedtime stories and animated classics.


But as the years went by, something within me began to shift. The castles and ball gowns, once the epitome of my childhood aspirations, slowly started to feel more like gilded cages than symbols of happiness. I began to seek out different stories, ones where the heroines wielded more than just charm and beauty. I was drawn to tales of adventure, resilience, and strength—stories where the protagonist didn't just wait to be rescued but took charge of her own destiny.


This shift wasn't just confined to the stories I read or the movies I watched; it seeped into every aspect of my life. I found myself gravitating towards activities that challenged me, that pushed me beyond the boundaries of what was traditionally expected. I discovered a profound sense of satisfaction in getting my hands dirty, in the tangible results of hard work and determination. There was something incredibly fulfilling about building, creating, and solving problems—not with magic, but with my own two hands.


And so, my dreams began to change. The allure of delicate glass slippers faded, replaced by the practicality and strength of steel toe boots. These boots, with their rugged exteriors and solid foundations, became a symbol of my new aspirations. They represented the journey I was on—one where grace wasn't just about elegance and poise but about perseverance and grit. They were a testament to the kind of princess I wanted to be: one who could stand on her own, who found beauty in resilience, and who wasn't afraid to forge her own path.


This transition wasn't always easy. There were moments of doubt, times when the familiar pull of the fairy tales I grew up with tugged at my heartstrings, tempting me to revert to the dreams of my childhood. But with every challenge I faced, with every obstacle I overcame, I became more convinced that I was on the right path. Solving problems was a testament to the power of hard work, of believing in oneself, and of the courage to pursue a dream that defies convention. And let's be honest, you can't do that in glass slippers. You need something sturdy, something that can keep up with you, step for step. Hence, the steel toe boots.


Wearing these boots, I feel unstoppable. They ground me, remind me of who I am and what I'm capable of. They're not just protective gear; they're a statement. A statement that says I'm here to challenge the status quo, to break down walls, both literally and metaphorically. They've become a part of my identity, a badge of honor that I wear with pride.


Sure, it's not always easy. I've had my fair share of raised eyebrows and skeptical glances. People seem to think that if you're not following the traditional path laid out for you, you're walking the wrong way. But here's the thing – there's no such thing as the wrong way. Just different paths leading to different destinations. And my path? It's a little rough around the edges, paved with challenges and learning curves, but it's mine.


I've learned so much along the way, not just about the work I do, but about myself. I've learned that strength comes in many forms, that courage isn't just about facing danger, but also about daring to be different. I've learned that being a princess isn't about the crown you wear on your head, but the resilience and determination you carry in your heart.


So here I am, lacing up my steel toe boots, ready to take on whatever comes my way. Because this princess doesn't need saving. She's too busy saving herself, one steel-clad step at a time.




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